Diseases Galore - How I'm coping

It was in 2017 that I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis(RA). Those suffering from this disease call themselves RA warriors on Twitter.Along with RA, I had cervical radiculopathy and frozen shoulder in both arms.

Seriously! They say 40 is a landmark year. In my case, I was just suddenly diagnosed with a bunch of new diseases. Yeah! Like the ones I had weren't enough.

Living with RA is a bitch! Now I'm being treated for it. I'm not on steroids, but the weight gain has been significant, anyway - all of 20kg. I've lost 1.5 kg out of it so far.

It's only from the start of 2018 that I have been able to wake up at 7 am. I often wake up feeling like someone has used a hammer to bash my fingers all night. So to remedy that, I wear gloves at night after applying aromatherapy oils on them( frankincense oil/rumalaya). I also apply these oils by turn on my knees, hands, and shoulders. I wear a sweater even though the temperature here at night is only about 15 degrees C, …

TOP 5 things I learned in 2017

1. Facebook can be like a conveyor belt carrying your emotional baggage round and round in your life and make it almost impossible to 'move on' in the real sense - shed old baggage, and start anew.
2. To start anew( albeit for the Nth time), you need to do what it takes - be it defriending people on FB, expressing old hurt through email, 'acting out', lying in bed all day, or fighting with everyone you know. Just trust in the process and express your authentic self.
3. Sometimes, you imbibe so much psychology that you control your responses to people based on your knowledge of psychology( how that person will interpret your response and so on). So you fail to express yourself and this can lead to emotional rotting, which is unhealthy.
4. Speak UP! Then and there if possible, but even if you feel you have things left unsaid about events that happened 20 years ago, say them! Life is short.
5. Trust that there will be opportunities for a course correction( be it in your …

Pro Bono Work I did for a Cause #TheWheelchairChallenge

Get on a wheelchair and spend some time - go to work or to the gym, train on a wheelchair or play a game. Or go to a restaurant or cinemas or market place or spend time just in the comforts of your home. Make sure you visit the washroom on a wheelchair.
Don't get off the wheelchair till the challenge is over. It's OK to take help when you hit a barrier (flight of stairs, thresholds, narrow doors) but pause and reflect how it would be if you have to face those barriers for a lifetime.
Pause and reflect on the experience.

Post a video - time lapse is great! 

Each of you is in a position of influence.  Help fix the most difficult barrier you came across. 

Make the world inclusive! Keep it going, share and challenge others. 


Have you EVER spent time
Starting today,
spend your time
Doing what some people
Do all their lives
Get on a wheelchair
And use it to do
What you…

Double Betrayal (A short story in 200 words)

I opened the door and quietly snuck in. I wondered if my husband would smell the betrayal on my clothes, on my hair, on my neck… Guilt wracked my soul and oozed through every pore of my body. I tasted blood where my lover had bitten my lip in a frenzy of passion. We had been driven to the edge from all our talk of our fantasies before.

Why was I doing this? Turning to another man when I had a perfectly nice one at home? Why had I taken a lover who would time and again make me cry and bring me shame? I guess I really didn't love myself after all. I decided to make this the year of ME. The year I would work on the woman in the mirror, without whom there could not be the chance of another relationship.

As these thoughts flooded through my head, I heard my husband stir. I quickly slipped into bed next to him. The man next to me was a stranger who took one look at me and shrieked. I jumped out of bed and demanded to know who he was. He sheepishly said he was my husband’s lover…

Shobhaa De and Vidya Balan on NDTV at 9.30 pm #NDTVDialogues

I watched Shobhaa De and Vidya Balan on NDTV talk about women in film, women in politics, the casting couch, feminism, and a whole range of interesting issues.

Again, I found myself agreeing with Shobhaa De's views. She was candid and bold, while Vidya was more diplomatic.

Vidya explained why she had to be diplomatic, saying that actors had a responsibility of 300-odd film crew members riding on them. People who have been way too outspoken have had trouble with their films coming out peacefully in the past. She also said that she didn't want any political affiliations to overshadow her roles played on screen.

Shobhaa, on the other hand, maintained that she was aware of her numerous weaknesses and felt that politics was not her forte because she couldn't see herself kowtowing to anyone and silencing her voice. She said she has not been pro- or anti- any government, but was just speaking as a citizen.

She said feminism is not about burning bras or confrontational politics. …

'Michael Jackson's Halloween' on Zee Cafe

I just watched 'Michael Jackson's Halloween' on Zee Cafe. Loved it! A great animated film for all creative people, romantics, music lovers, kids, and fans of Micahel Jackson.

The story starts with a young girl, an intern who is being ill-treated by her autocratic boss. She is asked to walk her boss's dog on Halloween night, which she chooses to do, hoping to become another "cog in the wheel". Meanwhile, in another part of town, a young boy aspires to be a DJ, but his dad wants him to inherit and run his store. The dad asks him to make a delivery to none other than (hold your breath) Michael Jackson's residence.

MJ is weaving his magic, sending out his messenger bats to sprinkle stardust on the two, unbeknownst to them.

They run into each other and end up in MJ's mansion only to be greeted by a talking chimp, Bubbles, who tells them 'the music will get you where you need to go'.

The duo reaches a pumpkin patch led by 'Hay Man', only to…

What I learned after writing 100 emails to friends and frenemies.

a. I'm different from most people in society.
b. I have looked at the world through the other person's point of view.( This epiphany struck me after my e-mail exchange with Sanjay Manaktala, stand-up comedian from Bangalore, also known as Senti Sanjay)
c. My own conclusion that I drew from point b. is that the world treats such people badly.
d. I believe that people are essentially good even when they prove me wrong time and time again and then keep quiet about all the rotten things they do, which results in my feeling low.
e. Through this email exercise, I directly emailed the people concerned and told them some of the rotten things they had done and how it had made me feel.
f. As a result, I have fewer friends. Big deal , I always thought I had none.
g. I really don't care about point f
h. Till date, I have only had frenemies.
i. The good people have stayed away from me for God knows what reason.
j. There might be still some people on my facebook who don't wish me w…